Removing Toxic People From Your Life

Daily we get so busy punching a clock, making ends meet, and handling our responsibilities that we get overwhelmed. In those moments being over engaged in everything else, it is very easy to miss those influences that are right in front of us that need to be removed. Toxic people are like cancers, they grow into our lives and they slowly consume the lifeblood that is feeding the organism. When the host dies, they move onto another source and then consume the life and the resources of the new host.

One thing that many people do not know is that there are many examples of toxicity out there and the main problem is that you cannot allow it to fester. You need to out at the root and move forward in your success and in your destiny.

Here is What You Need to Know When You Remove People

1. Know No One Will Change But You
2. Sometimes Change Means Leaving
3. Create Boundaries and Keep Them
4. Know Your Weaknesses
5. Do Not Get Pulled Into Drama

No Regrets 2018: The Only Road is Forward

No Regrets 2018: The Only Road is Forward

"In the end we only regret the chances that we did not take," this is one of the truest sayings that I have ever seen in life. Everything that we do is a chance and we live with uncertainty at every turn, you never know if you are going to make it to work, get home from work, or how or when it is over. Every moment that we have and every breath that we take are truly precious, what that means is that we have to be ready to live with every single decision that we make and take full responsibility.

Removing Toxicity From Your Life a Necessity for 2016

Removing Toxicity From Your Life a Necessity for 2016

When you look at your life, how many people do you have in it that you know should not be there? How many people have you forgiven, bailed out, and given a pass for everything that they have done wrong to you? Maybe the more important question is WHY? The really complicated thing about many toxic people is sometimes they are family and friends, sometimes, they are your partner, maybe your spouse. When you look back and you see what people have done to you, what they have cost you, why are they still in your life? You may find that toxic people are hard to let go, but even if you love them, you are better off without, these people in your life. Compassion is something that only goes so far. Compassion goes to the point that others begin to be a burden on your life and suck your dreams, your future, and your chances of making something out of your life.

LETTING TOXIC PEOPLE GO IS AN ACT OF SELF PRESERVATION AND SELF CARE

SET YOURSELF FREE IN 2016 OF THE TOXICO PEOPLE WHO DID NOT EARN YOUR CARE AND DO NOT DESERVE YOUR PRESENCE IN THEIR LIVES. IMAGINE WHAT LIFE CAN BE LIKE WHEN YOU ARE UNSHACKLED TO LIVE AND BE YOU!

Taking Control of Your Life

Taking Control of Your Life

Let's face it, we are all surrounded by toxic people, people who want different things and demand them of us. A few things you need to remember, you are in control here. You are under NO obligation to give anything that you want to anyone else. You have the ability to say no, and the ability to walk away at any moment without providing a further explanation. No one has a leash on you, you are not enslaved, you are not indebted and you are not dead. You have the ability to press the reset button on your life and do with it as you will immediately. You need to ask yourself, why have you not done it?

What is it that you are afraid of? Do you think you need someone's approval to take control of your life and to do what you want? The short answer to this is absolutely not. You are the master of your own destiny, and it is you only, who can put yourself where you want to be. You were not born royalty, no one is going to put a sceptre in your hand and present you with a kingdom. If there is something that you want you need to go for it.

Your life can be everything you want it to be in 5 years. But you must understand that your greatest enemy is looking you in the face, and that person is you. What can you do to get yourself aligned? How fast can you inspire yourself to be able to know where you need to go and what you need to do? The time is now!

Time is of the essence! Make a plan!

Melissa English is an author, screenwriter, and publisher based in the Los Angeles and Atlanta, GA areas. Follow her on Twitter @englishgirl777.

Compassion is an Art Not a Weakness

Compassion is an Art Not a Weakness

By Melissa English

Compassion is one of those things that is something that most people do not have. It can be the smallest thing in the world, from a smile at someone on the bus who is having a bad day, to letting someone get in front of you in line. We are all very busy, we all have things to do and people to see. However, the smallest reach out of human kindness can make a difference in everything that happens to a person in the course of a day or a week. Although something may seem small and insignificant to you, it may mean the world to someone else.

Smile at someone, for no reason other than to see them smile back. Tell a complete stranger a joke, and see if you can make them laugh. Pick up the tab for a complete stranger at a restaurant, and when your day comes, you will be surprised someone will do the same for you. Kindness and compassion those are free, there is no reason that people should not be kind to one another, the world would be a better place. 

You never know what the other person you are speaking to is going through, it may be the death of a family member, a divorce, or any other problem. Whatever it is, it may have left a lingering sadness on their heart. Be tender, be kind, and help others when you can. Kindness, smiles. and a tender heart are all free.

Melissa English is an author and consultant based in Los Angeles and Atlanta, GA.  To find out more about her check out http://www.melissaenglish.net/or follow her on Twitter @englishgirl777

Living In The Present Moment

By Kristin Lloyd Moussa

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”  - Buddha

 “If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.” – Lao Tzu

One of the hottest topics in the psychology and self-help industry is living in the present, living in the moment, and being in the now. However, as clearly noted in the above quotes this is not a new philosophy or way of thinking. In fact, it was established in Eastern philosophy but has grown in our culture as a result of our cultural preoccupation with the past and the future.

Many people in the world are so focused on the past and the future that they lose sight of the present, which has also been deemed a gift.

All of what occurs in our lives happens in the present. Decisions, thoughts, plans, and actions always take place in the present. Although regret happens in the future (when you regret the past) and dreams happen in the past (when you dream of your future), but every action that takes place is always conducted in the present.

Think about it – when you make the decision to get married or get divorced that is a present moment function. Whether it happens or not takes place in the future, but that thought and that decision always happens at one point in time –which is the present.

When you go out for a run in the morning, or engage in a yoga class, those actions are conducted in a present state of being.

Being in the present is about becoming alive in that moment and becoming mindful of that moment. When you are mindful and fully engaged or fully “present” and engaged in each present moment, there is another level of presence that goes beyond attendance. This heightened awareness allows you to enjoy each moment and engage fully.

There are so many people who are engaged with smart phones and televisions and wishing for either their past or their future because they are not engaged in their present. If engaged in the present, they must be forced to be mindful of their circumstances whatever that may be.

Becoming aware and being present is not a new state of being or some new age philosophy. It is about enjoying your life, or making the necessary changes in order to enjoy your life. It is more about engagement in your own life in avoiding the distractions.

It’s great to wish for something more and to dream for the future, but if you find yourself living in either the past or the future, then you are missing your greatest gift which is that present moment. Then it would be time to take action and experience your present state of being so that you can take action in order to change it.

Not everyone is able to realize that they are missing out on life, and many avoid the present in lieu of the past or the future. Don’t get caught in the cycle of living in the past or the future and instead take control of your future by living in the present. As all the choices and decisions are made in the present, your future is counting on you now to be present so that you are able to make a better tomorrow by being present today.

                                                                                                                    

"The Mind Accepts No Limits But Those You Give It"

By Melissa English

These ominous words which Michael Jordan spoke, "I have failed over and over, and that is why I succeed, " should ring in everyone's ears. All of history's great leaders, all of the best athletes, every inventor and visionary has known the word failure. The question is how do you decide to deal with failure? Do you sit and wallow in the pain and the affliction which has taken you over for the moment? Or do you realize that you are in fact on a journey and that every great, fill in the blank was once a failure?

Part of your daily ritual should not be looking over the failures in your past, but instead looking to the successes of the future. When Thomas Edison was attempting to create stand-alone wireless lighting, he failed over 10,000 times. When Marconi told his friends that he was going to invent a method by which sound waves could be transmitted through the air without wires, his friends and family tried to check him into a mental hospital.

According to Napoleon Hill, "The mind knows no limits but those you give it." Think about that statement for a moment, you are the one who is setting your boundaries and dictating the life you have, and want to have. Any limits you have may have been programmed by your environment, your friends, or your own teaching. However, the positive change you are looking for is merely a matter of teaching the brain a new program. As we know it takes 66 days, according to experts to learn a new habit, it is time to start yesterday.

Who's life are you living? The one you wanted, or someone else's? Remember behind every great success, failure is one step in the path along the way. Luck is an illusion, each success is the product of hard work, sacrifice, and careful planning. Here's to your success and your life's purpose!

-Melissa English

Melissa English is an author, screenwriter, and publisher based in the Los Angeles and Atlanta, GA areas. Follow her on Twitter @englishgirl777.